I realise I am guilty of euphemising AND plagiarising. This note should have been called "On Sex" instead. Can't imagine that on brightly coloured T shirts. It would grab some eyeballs am sure but hurt the sensibility of those who react to the word as if someone accidentally touched them in their privates. By now you realise that sensibility is not the operational word here. Its possibility. And its not even about sex exactly. Its about homosex. Same sex desire. Gayness, lesbianism, hijrapan, chakkapan.. (whatever floats your boat). So if sex is the accidental touch on your sensibility, homosex for alot of people is literally wringing their moral balls and bearings :P Its about gay parades, and weirdos and clapping and threats of stripping and all those things that Mr. Azad so aptly described as ... unnatural.
Would it surprise you if I said the way our societies are structured sex which leads to procreation is the only sex not frowned upon. Pleasure is outlawed. Its a denial that the society will live with it, fight but never accept. Its right here... its prostitution, its rape, its" if u lose ur virginity your world ends" mindsets. So the logic goes- Sex is so important when it is practiced in a badass way, but if you are caught up in a bad marriage with a horrible sex life.. think of your kids and find love in God (for the wife mind you). Knock on other doors for the guy, with the pain of social ostracisation looming large. Its this obsession with the dark and dangerous side of sex and an almost inversely proportionate failure to see it as intimacy, as maybe love and pleasure and not just baby-making, thats surely screwing our collective lives.
And what do i have against this? Just a few tidbits from a young life. No figures, no diagrams, no historical citations, no telling how much AIDs homosexuality is causing :P I can say only from my experience that much grief in this world is a denial of possibility. And am not just talking about who can have sex with whom debates. Am talking about boys don't cry and girls are little mothers. And i am yet to come across scientific data which shows that the tear glands of people born with a male organ are less functional than those who are not. Its crazy the restrictions we put on ourselves. But its not really our fault. When no one is embracing their possibilities why should you be the joke? But in our times you are a joke only till you become a millionaire.
And for all you know being human is a million dollar lottery in the game of evolution. Its a million possibilities. Animals don't grow their food. We cook it and make fancy cuisine. We banish our fur and invent fashion. We have a whole industry based on being who we are not ( Hollywood and other woods). To "be unnatural" is the most natural thing for humans.There is one thing that I realise now, that being human whether its sex, art, music, science.. is not about limitation , control, fear, denial. Its about possibility. And to claim that homosexuality is unnatural is to deny what the human body is capable of. If we were meant to be limited by our bodies we would be very pathetic versions of animals indeed. We would never fly, because we are not birds. Never swim because we are not fish. Never be in space because we are not meteors! Our body, our mind is a realm of possibility, its time to give ourselves a chance.
